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You know you're doing too much—managing, fixing, controlling, caring for everyone and everything. You're the strong one, the capable one, the one everyone comes to.
But here's what's really happening: beneath all that doing is an inner longing to come home to yourself.
That restlessness you feel? That sense that something's missing even though your life looks good on paper? That emptiness that whispers to you in quiet moments?
It's not because you need to do more, be better, achieve more, or give more.
It's because you're disconnected from yourself.
From your soul. From your heart. From your body. You're living in your head, in the endless DOING of life––and you've forgotten how to simply BE.
You yearn for relief from the constant pressure...in your mind, in your relationships, in your life.
What you're experiencing isn't failure. It's an invitation.
Your soul is calling you home. This restlessness, this exhaustion, this longing––
it's an awakening of the wholeness of who you are.
Not the kind of "awakening" where you escape your life or transcend your humanness.
The kind where you finally come back together inside yourself––where what you show the world aligns with how you actually feel, where your head, heart, and body finally come home to each other.
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I see you––the woman who looks so strong, so capable, like she has it all together. The one everyone relies on. The doer, the fixer, the one who can handle it all.
I see the woman who's good at taking care of everything and everyone––except herself.
Who feels safe when she's in control but exhausted by the weight of it all.
Who cares deeply about her family, about the world, about other people––but struggles to turn that same care toward herself.
I see the woman who's been doing the work for years–– therapy, spiritual practice, personal growth––and still doesn't feel whole or healed.
Who understands the concepts intellectually but can't seem to live them. Who's frustrated because she knows better but still can't seem to do better.
I see the woman who's secretly wishing someone would show up for her the way she shows up for everyone else.
I see you because I was you.
Fifteen years ago, I woke up to a reality I'd been avoiding: I was exhausted. Restless. Unfulfilled. And I had no idea why.
From the outside, I looked fine. Happy, even. Successful career, great marriage, two wonderful kids. I was friendly, capable, strong––the one people came to for help.
But inside? I wondered, "who is this person living this life?" I felt a deep sense of disconnection.
I was a total control freak––managing, fixing, doing, trying to hold everything together. I was relentlessly hard on myself. I had anger issues and would emotionally react in ways that felt completely out of control. I was judgmental––of myself, of others, of life itself.
I lived almost entirely in my head. Very little access to my emotions. Completely disconnected from my body. I had no real relationship with my heart or my soul––I didn't even know what that meant.
I was people-pleasing in my friendships while being emotionally distant and demanding in my marriage. I felt empty inside, hoping I could find fulfillment by being "good enough."
I was performing my life instead of living it.
The exhaustion I felt wasn't from doing too much, it was from doing too much to compensate for the ache of living divided from my heart and soul and the (false) belief that I was loved for what I did, not who I was.
So, I started turning inward––not to fix myself, but to finally meet myself.
I began building a relationship with myself through self-inquiry, inner child healing, shadow work. I learned about the nervous system and how our bodies hold our stories. I started reclaiming the abandoned parts of myself—the emotions I'd been taught to suppress, the needs I'd learned to ignore, the truth I'd been too afraid to speak.
I learned to fill my own cup. To turn toward myself with the same compassion, care, and generosity I'd been giving everyone else.
Slowly, the pieces came together.
What I showed the world started to align with how I actually felt. I started to re-gain access to my heart, my body, my truth.
This journey from ego-led to soul-led living took years. It wasn't linear. It wasn't always pretty.
But it changed everything.
My marriage transformed.
My friendships deepened.
My relationship with my two sons (now 21 and 23) became more authentic and connected than I ever thought possible.
I became more patient, more accepting, more loving––toward myself AND toward others.
When I stopped trying to get my needs met through being "the capable one," when I filled my own cup first—I didn't become more selfish.
I became more genuine, open-hearted, generous, and compassionate.
Because I was finally giving from overflow instead of depletion.
These days, I'm a Soul Guide and coach who helps women move from ego-led living to soul-led living––
from doing to being, from self-improvement to self-acceptance, from performing their lives to actually living them.
I create a space where women feel held, seen, and accepted––often for the first time––so they can finally stop beating themselves up and start loving who they actually are.
We use the very things that frustrate them––their limitations, their challenges, the patterns that exhaust them––as material for becoming their most expressed, powerful selves.
I help them come home to themselves within the containers of their real lives––without having to escape it or burn it all down.
I do this through The Whole Soul Way™––my comprehensive program rooted in inner child reparenting, shadow work, nervous system regulation, and building a loving relationship with yourself.
We work with meeting unmet childhood emotional needs, reclaiming abandoned parts of yourself, and shifting unhealthy patterns––not by leaving your life, but by finally coming fully alive IN it.
I also host ELATE: Explore Life at the Edges––a podcast for those allergic to taking sides and hungry for wholeness. I explore the edges of comfort, belief, and what's possible––diving into relationships, aging, spirituality, and the messy, beautiful work of being human. Sometimes I teach, sometimes I riff, sometimes I bring on guests who live at their own edges. Always seeking depth, always with curiosity over certainty.
Let me be clear: I'm human. Still evolving.
I'm further than ever from that "perfect" image I used to prefer to present to the world—and that's exactly where I want to be.
I'm a teacher of self-love who's still learning to love herself fully. I continue doing my own inner work because this path doesn't end—it deepens.
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DEB BLUM, Soul Guide, Transformational Coach, Founder of The Whole Soul Way™
Deb Blum guides women from ego-led living to soul-led living without escaping or burning down the lives they've built.
Fifteen years ago, Deb woke up exhausted, restless, and living completely divided from herself. Through her own journey of inner child healing, shadow work, and nervous system regulation, she discovered that wholeness isn't about self-improvement––it's about self-acceptance.
For over a decade, Deb has been helping women reclaim the parts of themselves they've disowned, heal their pasts, and shift the patterns keeping them stuck. Through The Whole Soul Way™ and her podcast ELATE (Explore Life at the Edges), she teaches the practical tools for coming home to yourself––not through more concepts, but by finally closing the gap between what you know and how you actually live.
Deb believes that you are the answer you've been seeking. That when we come together inside ourselves, we heal the divisiveness in the world. And that it all starts with you.
She lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her husband of 24 years and is the proud mother of two adult sons.
Studied Under and/or Has Been Coached By
- Thomas Hübl, Nervous System and Trauma Healing
- Pete Walker, Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Healing, Emotional Healing
- Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Author/Consciousness Teacher
- Dr. Jonice Webb, Childhood Emotional Neglect
- Shakti Gawain, Author/Spiritual Teacher
- Margaret Paul, Inner Bonding
- Jeff Brown, Grounded Spiritualist
- Derek Hart, Understand Each Other
- Dan McClintock, The Kiloby Inquiries
Some of the Therapeutic Modalities She's Experienced
- Kiloby Inquiry (emotional repression release)
- Reichan Therapy (body-centered psychotherapy)
- Somatic Experiencing (trauma healing in the body)
- EMDR (trauma healing)
- Reiki and other energy healings
- Conscious Living (Gay and Katie Hendricks)
- Voice Dialogue (Hal and Sidra Stone)
- Spiritual Healing (including Spirit-Led Coaching)
- EFT (emotional freedom technique)
- Muscle Testing (subconscious questioning)
Training Programs and Certifications
- Davidji's Meditation Academy
- Certified Master of Wisdom & Meditation Teacher (2025)
- Alzheimer's Research & Prevention
- Brain Longevity® Certification (2023)
- Path of Kriya Yoga (Ananda)
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Completed Step 1-Course in Meditation (2022)
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- Conscious Dying Institute
- Conscious Dying End-of-Life Course (2022)
- Global Sisterhood Circle Initiation
- Certified Women's Circle Facilitator (2020)
- Certified Women's Circle Facilitator (2020)
- Dr. Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry Program
- Compassionate Inquiry and Trauma Healing Practitioner Year-Long Training (2019)
- Awakening the Body with Reggie Ray
- Somatic Meditation Course (2017)
- Jai Institute for Parenting
- Conscious Parent Coach (2016)
- Conscious Parent Coach (2016)
- Irene Lyon's SmartBody SmartMind
- Nervous System Healing Training (2016)
- Advanced Loving
- Relationship Life Coach (2016)
- Big Shift 12-Month Program
- Business Mentorship (2015)
- Business Mentorship (2015)
- Doreen Virtue's Tarot Card Training
- Certified Tarot Card Reader (2014)
- Interchange Counseling Institute
- Transformational Life Coach/Counselor (2013)
- Marie Forleo's B-School
- Training for Online Entrepreneurs (2013)
- Training for Online Entrepreneurs (2013)
- Institute for Integrative Nutrition
- Certified Health Coach (2012)
- Certified Health Coach (2012)
