And you don't have to.

 

➙ Acceptance where you can drop your guard and be you

Clients often tell me they get a true experience of compassion and acceptance from me. Because I’ve done and continue to do my own shadow and radical acceptance work, I’m not activated by the stories that are shared with me. So when you come to me feeling ashamed about a pattern you’ve been repeating, a mean judgment you’re feeling about another, a dark truth you’ve been hiding, or a big “mistake” you’ve made, I won’t feel harshly judgmental or charged the way you do. You’ve already experienced enough rejection in your life––it’s time for you to realize that you’re loved for who you are so you can stop being who you think you need to be. I’ll see you in your tender humanity and brilliant wholeness. I’ll accept, nurture, and love you as you learn to do it for yourself. All of you is welcome with me. Often, we can't see a way out when we’re looping on a story we’ve been living for a lifetime. My ability to remain unattached to the story in the same way you are means that I can see possibilities you may not yet see. That’s the beauty of having a guide who can teach you how to use your inner guidance system that’s perfectly calibrated to get you where you want to go. I’ll teach you how to use everything in your life as fodder for your growth and healing, knowing that whatever is showing up in your life is happening because something within you is ready to be explored and integrated. I’ll help you find the underlying feelings, fears, and needs… the root causes. We’ll use every experience to support you in stepping more fully into the truth of who you are. I’ll be your lighthouse, guiding you back home to yourself, repeatedly, until it feels second nature to you.

You’ll be exposed to perspectives you may have never considered that will open you to new possibilities you never imagined but your soul knows to be true. You may need to repeatedly listen to some of my videos to take the depth of the message in fully. I’m always doing my inner work, so I’ll share my deeper lessons as I learn them. I’m also light-hearted and don’t take this stuff too seriously. I have a playful attitude about our flaws, dramas, stories, judgments, shadows, and other so-called “negative stuff.” That being said, I won't ever dismiss or invalidate your feelings. And will hold your tender heart with care.

➙ Dive in where you are vs. pushing you with "shoulds"

I'm patient because I know that what you’re learning is a new way of being, not a quick fix. You’ve already been told you’re not doing it fast enough or good enough. You’re already hard on yourself. I'll support you to slow things down, turn inward, and rebuild from the inside out. We’ll be less focused on you willfully changing your behaviors and instead on the underlying reasons for the behaviors you want to change. I won’t rush you or push you based on some arbitrary idea of where you "should be." I will offer invitations to push your edges and opportunities to explore new territories. When clients experience resistance, rather than tell them to forge forward, I invite them to go slower and explore the resistance. Ultimately, when they’re ready, their transformation is easier and more potent.

Many coaches and mentors will encourage you to make big changes in your life in the name of “you deserve it” and “following your bliss.” I have zero judgment if you decide to change your life drastically. However, before you take action, I’ll remind you: "Wherever you go, there you are.” Your “problems” will follow you until you’ve done the inner work, shifted your part in your patterns, and healed the original wound first. So, what can you expect from me? I’ll always encourage you to turn inward to do your inner work, focus on your side of the street, and bravely show up more authentically. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be able to see your life more clearly, feel confident that you’re not running away from yourself, and know what the most soul-aligned action is.

Deep in my core, I believe in wholeness and acceptance. My clients learn quickly that if they come to me to vent about how they were wronged and they’re hoping for me to side with them and join them in their story, they’ll be disappointed. I’ll hold loving space for your experience and help you to understand your reactions, thoughts, fears, needs, and feelings about the situation. I’ll invite you to examine possible shadows and ways your past plays out in the present. And to understand and shift your part in the pattern. I would be doing you a disservice to join you in a story that’s most likely keeping you from what you most desire. Ultimately, I’m always calling you back to the wholeness that you are.

I’m 100% about people feeling empowered, capable, and well-equipped to be successful in all areas of their lives, including their healing and growth journey. It’s so common to seek out a guru or to get on the path and never get off–decades of therapy, insatiably consuming books and podcasts, retreats, and events that feel great but don’t stick. Mostly we’re still looking outside of ourselves for answers. I teach you to become the source of your own guidance, happiness, safety, strength, and love. My greatest wish is for you to step in as the leader of your life and healing journey and eventually no longer need me. That’s the beauty of knowing how to use your internal guidance system and becoming your own coach–it puts you in the driver’s seat as the spiritually and emotionally mature and whole woman you’re meant to be where you’re confidently charting your destiny.