Remember Humpty Dumpty?
"Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the king's horses and all the king's men, Couldn't put Humpty Dumpty together again."
I always thought this was a cautionary tale about being careful.
What if Humpty didn't fall?
What if "life" broke him into pieces—because he learned that being whole wasn't safe?
And it's a metaphor for what happens to us?
I'll explain.
When you were young, you showed up whole, all of you. You just were who you were: fully, gloriously, spontaneously, wildly human. Probably at times too loud, too silly, too demanding, and too whiny.
And someone—or many someones—gave you the message: You're too much. That's unacceptable. That's uncomfortable. That's bad. You're misbehaving. Be respectful. Don't ask for so much.
And you realized that, to be loved and safe, to be accepted and survive, you had to change.
So you did what any smart, resourceful child would do: you broke yourself into acceptable pieces.
You kept the capable piece. The strong piece. The kind and helpful pieces. The piece that doesn't cry or need or struggle. The pieces that earn love through performance, perfection, and pleasing.
And you hid the rest.
You locked away the vulnerable piece, the needy piece, the uncertain piece, the emotional piece.
You put them in a box labeled "unacceptable" and shoved them so far down you forgot they existed.
You didn't fall off the wall.
You dismantled yourself to stay on it.
And for years—maybe decades—it worked.
You became the one people could count on. The go-to person. The strong one. The good one. The respectful one.
You built a whole life on those acceptable pieces. You convinced yourself you were better this way.
But here's the thing about living as fragments:
>>> You can't be fully alive when half of you is locked away. <<<
You're left with a hollow, superficial existence. Feeling restless in a way you can't name.
Because you're trying to live a whole life with only half of yourself.
And all the king's horses and all the king's men—all the therapy, all the self-help books, all the productivity hacks, all the achievements—can't put you back together again.
Because they're trying to FIX you.
And you were never broken.
What you actually need is to go find the pieces you hid.
Not to fix them.
Not to make them acceptable.
But to reclaim them.
To bring them back into the light and say: "You belong here too. You were never too much. You were never unacceptable. I'm sorry I abandoned you to stay safe."
The vulnerable piece that needs reassurance sometimes.
The emotional piece that cries and feels deeply.
The uncertain piece that doesn't have all the answers.
The soft piece that wants to be held.
The needy piece that longs for connection.
They're not weaknesses. They're part of your humanity.
And when you integrate them—when you stop performing invulnerability and allow yourself to be fully human—you don't become less.
You become MORE.
You don't lose your strength. You gain depth.
You don't become weak. You become real.
You don't fall apart. You come back together.
The Whole Soul Way™ is about learning how to put yourself back together—not by fixing the "broken" parts, but by reclaiming the parts you were taught to reject.
It's about distinguishing between the voice in your head that says "you're too much" and the quiet truth in your heart that says "you're exactly as you were meant to be."
It's about realizing that you don't have to choose between being strong and being human.
You're not the hopeless Humpty Dumpty after the fall.
You're the Humpty Dumpty who learned to break herself into pieces to stay safe—and is finally learning she doesn't have to anymore.
All of you belong.
All of you are acceptable.
All of you deserve to be here.
It's time to bring all of you home.
Ready?
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